This is a presentation of four contributions written by members of CHAI about their own experiences. The first is about children, the second explores the singles scene, the third is about forming a business partnership, and the fourth is on health and grapho-therapy. The style is deliberately non-academic as it is intended to be a light introduction for newcomers to the subject. These experiences show some of the unusual aspects and uses of Handwriting Analysis and demonstrate the effectiveness of graphology. This knowledge has profoundly changed the lives of the people who have contributed to this paper.
Graphology, as an assessment tool for behavior, is used in many different ways. Of all the applications in which I’ve used my skills as an analyst, a most useful way is keeping an eye on the writings of my kids and their friends. As a student of human behavior, I’ve always been interested in what makes people tick. I cannot remember a specific event to cause this curiosity, only the occasional squabble that friends so often experience. So as a graphologist, it only seemed natural for me to explore the relationships my children form with their friends. I also fell that the information would give me an edge as a parent on how to deal with the many challenges that arise. Friendships can be very complex. Analyzing handwriting has sharpened my ability to relate in more effective ways while lessening the guesswork and stress while discovering what’s going on in their lives.
I have a standard in my house. If new friends want to come over, they understand and agree that I’ll need a sample of their handwriting. So far, no one has refused to give me a sample. In fact, they are quite intrigued and happy to comply. I also give them a five-minute review of their handwriting. Each of these youngsters commented how accurate and revealing my analysis was. After looking at the handwriting of one of my son’s friends, I asked him, “You lie just for the fun of it, don’t you?” You should have seen the smile on his face. I’ve had no trouble with that friend and the respect he has shown me was something I had not expected. My son took delight in the fact that the handwriting confirmed what he already knew of his friend.
As another example of how I’ve used graphology to help my children, my thoughts turn to one of my daughter’s friends who is a ‘dual slanter’. The slant wobbled from word to word and the PPI (Personal Pronoun I) leaned consistently to the far left. The friend and I had many wonderful opportunities to discuss her moods and feelings. She often comes to the house to ‘talk things out’ when she feels she can’t get anyone else to listen. Understanding this friend through her writing has helped both my daughter and myself understand her complex personality, and how to relate to her. Handwriting analysis has opened doors for communication and understanding not only between my daughter and her friend, but also between my child and myself.
Before I started analyzing handwriting, I felt somewhat lost as to how to help my children with situations that would arise. Since I’ve been on this graphological journey with my kids and their friends, I’ve reduced the stress in my life and increased understanding and compassion for all of them. After all, the heart and soul of the family is where healthy and happy children thrive. These early experiences form the basis for our adult relationships.
The games people play when searching for the right partner can be time consuming and complicated. Some of us jump head first into a relationship without really getting to know the other person. Still others don’t even try, choosing to stand on the sidelines watching and pining. It seems like a big lottery and the odds are not in our favor. Many complain of the lack of eligible partners in this fast-paced world of ours. Is there really a lack or are we just not looking the right way?
People can put on a mask to the outside world and hide their true nature so well. Many of us are unable to detect the flaws and personal issues people carry. I found that in the beginning of relationships, men present themselves as generous and kind, showering gifts and complimentary behavior.
After my last relationship ended in disaster, I decided I was not going to begin another one until I could determine if it was likely to succeed. But how do I do this?
So last year, after being introduced to handwriting analysis, I was inspired to undertake an experiment. At several singles dances, when a man asked me for a date, I asked for a sample of his writing. If one became a bit defensive, I would explain my interest in handwriting analysis and how I needed samples to practice. Little did they suspect I was evaluating them based on their handwriting.
Each one showed particular traits that could be detrimental to a relationship. But, being the curious soul that I am, I decided to go out on a few dates. I wanted to see for myself if the behavior would be revealed as the handwriting indicated. True to form, the men showed their true nature. One man’s handwriting had the stroke (trait) indicating self-serving interests. This was displayed in the way this man incessantly talked about himself. Another one had the stroke of physical frustration. This revealed itself as pushing for intimacy. Yet another indicated stubbornness. Although no one is perfect, the fewer of these negative traits present in a person’s handwriting, the more conducive to a sincere and loving relationship the person will most likely be.
As I read about the traits that influence a romantic relationship, the more I realize other women could benefit from the information I gathered. Too often we literally take people at face value. We are so naďve that we want to believe people and what they say. But, sadly, their masks fool us. How easy it would be for someone with a dark hidden agenda, such as a sexual predator or physical abuser, to slip undetected into a singles group and charm unsuspecting victims. I am learning that all of these traits show up in the analysis of handwriting. With time being such an issue in our lives, shortening the search for that special someone would give us freedom to explore other mutual interests. Handwriting Analysis provides a very accurate method to determine compatibility between any two people.
It was Saturday, January 26, 2001 and Jerry was in Dallas, Texas. He was attending a book signing party. Along with Karen, Jerry had a great time analyzing the handwriting of the many guests.
Jerry –
It was a little more than two months earlier that Karen and I had met in my graphology chat room. In November I told her I was coming to Dallas (this is where she lives) and asked her to recommend a convenient motel. Karen said she would check on it, but in the meantime she suggested we exchange handwriting samples. After analyzing my handwriting, Karen invited me to stay at her house.
Karen --
I am a Document Examiner, Graphologist, and a Grapho-Therapist. My focus and research is in the fields of physical and mental health. Graphologists have discovered that injuries and diseases in these areas can manifest themselves in one’s handwriting, many times even before the condition is diagnosed. When I see such indications, I immediately refer the client to an appropriate professional.
From hearing Jerry week after week on his Monday night chat, I knew he was a fine Graphologist. When he informed me he was coming to Dallas, he asked if I would have time to introduce him to document examination. I realized that his time was limited and thought that we might have more time together if he stayed at my house. I must tell you, no one comes into my www without my first analyzing their handwriting. Jerry’s handwriting revealed honesty, integrity, loyalty, directness, and his good personal boundaries. Our handwriting showed a very high level of compatibility, so I felt very safe in inviting him into my house for his three-day visit.
Jerry –
It was during these three days that Karen and I talked about the possibility of starting an internet-based handwriting organization. It wasn’t until three months later, when I returned to Dallas for a handwriting seminar, that Karen and I started to formulate plans for the organization that would later become the “Coalition of Handwriting Analysts International” (CHAI). An amazing partnership had begun.
What traits did they see in each other’s handwriting that made them believe they could actually create this organization? These two individuals compliment each another by their similarities as well as their opposites. Both have high self-esteem that means they are not afraid to start something new. Jerry is a very fast thinker while Karen is investigative. Jerry is a stickler for those pesky details, while Karen visualizes the big picture and all the wonderful possibilities. One of these possibilities is the establishment of CHAI’s Science & Research department.
In the beginning there is so much to learn about handwriting analysis. We begin with the basics and are amazed at what a person’s handwriting reveals. Fortunately, the learning doesn’t stop there. One area to be considered is that of Grapho-therapy and how it can help us alter our path and our thinking, and, in some instances, save our lives. This is my story:
About four months ago, I came in contact with Karen, a grapho-therapist. I was researching the subject of mirror writing, learning all I could about it and what it means. I was using my left, dominant hand to do both normal and mirror writing. And therein was the key to the mystery of my “affliction”.
I used mirror (backward) writing to maintain my daily journal. Karen explained that by using only my left (dominant) hand to write both forward and backward, isolation was the result … withdrawing deeper and deeper into myself. When comparing the two writings, the personal pronoun “I” in the backward writing was a mere stick, diminishing in size as time progressed. It was like being enclosed in an invisible prison as an onlooker unable to participate, lonely, depressed, and incapable of fully developing close ties with anyone.
By discontinuing the use my backwards writing and incorporating other aspects of grapho-therapy, I have been able to modify several “problem areas” in my life and personality. There is a sense of excitement as I continue my journey…a journey that most individuals have taken for granted.
Another example of how I have been aided by graphology is in regards to health. On June 20, 2002 I was compelled to go to the hospital. Certainly this was a heart attack. The doctor’s diagnosis was angina unspecified. Blood pressure medication, nitroglycerin and an aspirin a day were prescribed. I was suspicious. I informed Karen of the diagnosis and sent her handwriting samples. She was adamant that something more was going on than just angina. She felt certain that the diagnosis should have been a stroke or mild heart attack. And so the vigil began.
On September 9, 2002, awakened out of a sound sleep, I was in the process of having a heart attack. This time I was taken to the hospital where I received treatment consisting of the placement of two stints to open two of the three blocked arteries in my heart. Although the experience was frightening, the element of surprise had been eliminated. Karen had refused to minimize my condition, and kept encouraging me to maintain a watchful eye on my writing, noting any changes. And changes there were! In truth, one could very well say that my knowledge of graphology had not only improved the quality of my life, but actually saved it.
1.Authors: Children by Tracy Wilson, Certified Graphologist, CHAI Executive Secretary. The Dating Game by U’liana de Shannon, student of graphology and CHAI member. A Business Relationship by Karen Weinberg QDE, Grapho-Therapist, CHAI Exec. VP and Jerry Fishow, Handwriting Analyst, CHAI President. Discovery by Rosetta Cozart, Certified Graphologist, CHAI member
2. Jerry Fishow Email. Jerryf@chaiUSA.org
3. CHAI Website http://www.chaiusa.org
Updated 18 November 2002. Please report any corrections to bradlen@graphology.ws
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